Yesterday, Hubby and I celebrated 32 years of marriage!
Now this is a pretty big thing in a world where divorce and not even bothering to get married is common. And this is an even bigger thing when you consider that I wasn't even 18 and he was just 20 when we first tied the knot. Oh, and don't forget that he has a completely different personality than I do. He is a geeky programmer,that I strongly suspect is an Aspie, who needs order in his life. I'm a disorganized artistic gal who really gets energized when I'm around people. These are just a taste of our differences.
How do we do it? How have we stayed together in relative peace when those around us have so much conflict?
God has helped. He drew us together and has guided us, in seen and unseen ways, for many years. We both have been pretty much on the same level in our walk with God throughout our marriage. We both try to hear His voice in making decisions and have the same desire to follow what we think is in His will.
I think another thing that has helped us is that we both recognize that we are broken, imperfect people. We try to extend to the other the same grace we hope to receive when we make mistakes. We try our best, but we know that we will step on each other's toes from time to time, we will do or say things that will hurt the other, and we will fall short. But we also know that we care for and want the best for each other. When we admit our mistakes, apologize, do better next time, we can then get on with life. We don't assume that because one of us does something unthoughtful that it's because we're trying to make the other person's life miserable or don't care for each other. Only God is perfect. The rest of us need grace and forgiveness...Lots of it!
Another thing is that we realize that we were really made for each other. Hubby has strengths in ways that I am weak, and the opposite is true. We are really a pretty good team, complimenting each other like the pieces of a puzzle. We can have a much better picture of situations because we see the world in such different ways. Together we can do so much more than what we would be able to do individually.
I am so thankful for such a good husband for me. God knew what he was doing.