It hurts Ms. D the most. She's the one that is more attached to the birth family and initiates much of the contact. Mr. I is just scared and doesn't want to be near most of them. But I'm worried about Ms. D. She doesn't talk much and holds things in; that's why she had seizures. She's had to deal with abandonment before. And now she's having to deal with it again.
Yesterday I thanked the birth dad, who lives in another state, for his calls to Ms. D after her hospitalization. I told him that it makes Ms. D feel loved. It really does. I pray that we can show her that she is loved in the way she can receive it and that we are here for her. I pray that God does the same. After all, He is love, and can show her His love when people fail.